The Art of Adapting To Change

One of the main reasons that may hinder us from reaching our innermost goals and desires is our inability to be flexible.

This fact may be hard to swallow, but it's true. We do everything we can to eliminate any type of suffering in our lives, yet challenges and pressures can bring out the best in us.

If you have been burdened by mistakes in the past, learn from them, forget about them, and move on. Some people tend to focus on how bad their lives have been due to these mistakes. As a result, they remained stuck in their miserable lives.

Treat your mistakes as lessons, and apply them as learning references in your future endeavors.

So what if you invested in a business and you lose a ton of money? In this situation, some people would remain deeply discouraged for a long time that their personal lives are being affected negatively. They can't eat well and they just stare at the ceiling all night long, thinking how this bad incident happened. Furthermore, they would probably vow not to venture into new opportunities again.

You don't have to be like them. If you're afraid to fail, then you risk all your chances to achieve your goals in life. Try again; but this time, be more careful and use your past mistakes as guide maps.

Look at it this way. If you try, at least you get a 50% chance of getting what you want. But if you did not try at all, you have absolutely no chance of attaining your
desires in life. It's a no-brainer.

But when you try, make sure you follow through. I've met so many people who have accepted my proposal to write reports for me, but most of them would stop right in the middle of their work and quit. They have the drive to start, but they lack the motivation to go through all the difficulties. Yes, this is another fact of life. Those who persist may have some hell of a time at present, but they shall have the last laugh.

Let's fast forward into the future. Let's say you did try, you followed through, and you succeeded. Congratulations. So you became wealthy by reaping the fruits of your labor.

This does not mean you'll stay in that situation for good. Problems may rise again, so always be ready to adjust to the current situation. The only thing permanent in this world is change.

If you need to sacrifice something for a better cause, then do it. If you have to miss your favorite show on TV or if you have to deny your friends' invitation to go out on a Saturday night so that you can devote more time to those activities that will lead you closer to your goals, so be it.

You may encounter difficulties. You may receive criticisms. Other people may even regard you as being “different” or “strange”. Don't let them discourage you. Just keep on striving, and success will be yours for the taking.

About the Author:

Michael Lee is the author of "How To Be A Red Hot Persuasion Wizard," an ebook that reveals powerful secrets on how to get anything you want, including how to tremendously improve your relationships, explode your profits, win arguments, and
magically influence others. Grab a sample chapter at 20 Day Pesuasion

28 Things That Really Do Matter In Marriage and Relationships

In my opinion, these things matter...

1. Valuing commitment over instant pleasure and faithfulness beyond short term displeasure.

2. Telling less than I feel for the purpose of learning more than I know.

3. Choosing to have mutual conflict become the playing field where we celebrate victory as opposed to the battlefield where the only winners are division and discord.

4. Delighting in the dream of another -- not necessarily because I share the dream but because I'm in love with the one who owns it.

5. Appreciating what I do well in the face of what the other does better -- and doing so without downplaying either.

6. Calling it a night before calling it off.

7. Reinforcing habits that heal and breaking habits that make healing necessary.

8. Misplacing grudges more often and finding praises more often than not.

9. Making honor a way of seeing,

10. Gratefulness a way of speaking,

11. Listening with the heart a way of hearing,

12. And responding in self-control a way of emoting.

13. Striving to win as a team instead of simply striving to win.

14. Saying "I love you" more often -- without saying it.

15. Keeping a better score of what was done right than what wasn't done "as right as I would like."

16. Misplacing "You should have" more and finding "I'm glad you did" more often.

17. Developing and maintaining our own mutual admiration society.

18. Helping when I can,

19. Stopping when I should,

20. And listening a whole lot in between.

21. Speaking truth without a hurtful agenda and laying aside conflicting agendas for the sake of loving in truth.

22. Hating the word "betrayed" and choosing to join forces in waging a war against all it represents.

23. Loving for all the relationship is worth -- because it really is worth it all.

24. Working hard at words that work well instead of making it hard because "working hard at the relationship" is not in my vocabulary.

25. Realizing that forgiveness doesn't automatically make everything right -- it simply creates a more solid foundation for the remainder of the journey.

26. Learning how to laugh, cry, struggle, shout, pout, fight, celebrate and rejoice as a couple that cares as opposed to one that cares not at all.

27. Realizing there is no such thing as a "50/50" relationship in marriage. It's a "110/110" deal. We give our all -- and then some -- in order to make it all work
out.

28. Choosing to make laughter, encouragement, joy, and mutual expressions of love permanent residents in our home instead of guests we hope will some day arrive.

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IT'S TIME - Make The Most Of Our Lives

True confession: I don't take the time I should to reflect. I feel I should, but somehow I just don't quite get around to making it happen. At least not enough.

Maybe the ideas below will help *both* of us take an extra moment or two for this discipline. Mental jump-starts so-to-speak :)

IT'S TIME TO REFLECT...

About what is most important to you in life.

On what the phrase "being a person of excellence" means to you.

On your roles in life and the possibilities each one holds for you in terms of your own personal growth and development.

About the lessons life has taught you so far. Could you record those in a creative way that is meaningful to you -- a poem, an extended journal, writing, painting, creating a memory book, composing a song, etc?

On the reflections you have recorded in the past and what those thoughts could -- or should -- mean for you today.

About how you will schedule times of reflection for next year.

The meaning of a special season.

The events of this past year and how they could shape your thinking and acting about next year.

And so on: you complete the list.

IT'S TIME TO STOP

Knowing when and what to stop is essential if we are to live a life of excellence.

For instance, it may be good for me to...

Stop long enough to make reflection meaningful.

Stop selected activities if I am going to spend time with my family or those I love.

Stop and take the needed rest before I am *forced* to slow down because I am too worn out to do anything else.

Stop one activity and replace it with another one that will allow me to make a simple step toward accomplishing the very special dream I've had for years.

Stop and say "I love you," "I'm here to help," or "Thank you."

Sometimes we need to stop long enough to truly "see" what is taking place in our lives and make changes.

I know. I've been there.

Years ago a friend of mine brought me into his office, looked me directly in the eyes, and confronted me. It was rough -- but needed. I'm a better person today because I had to face some hard facts about myself.

If I'm hurting others by my words or actions, then it's time to stop.

If I'm engaged in some sort of self destructive behavior, then I need to stop long enough to get help.

Maybe it's time for the bitterness, selfishness, lying, stealing or anger to stop. I'm especially sensitive to the latter -- anger. One of the most horrifying events
I witnessed in recent years was the result of a husband's uncontrolled rage directed toward his wife and family.

IT'S TIME TO ENJOY

The simple things. The little things. One of my daughters wrote a note to me a while ago, and in the note she reminded me to "take time to enjoy the simple things, dad."

A good reminder. It was a good reminder for me at the time. It is still a good reminder for me.

In addition, you may want to take time to enjoy...

The fun things. Things that you make you laugh or smile. The laughter of others.

The kindness you have been shown by a person who is close -- or not so close -- to you.

The fact that someone is praying for you and how meaningful those prayers are to you.

Children and their joy of discovery.

Colors, the changing of the seasons, landscapes, nature, a book, the "feel good" movie you have wanted to see, the walk you haven't taken for a while, a meal you would normally rush through, the musical that always lifts your spirits (Beauty and the Beast or My Fair Lady anyone?), or the workout you have missed.

IT'S TIME...

• To reflect.
  
• To stop.
  
• To enjoy.
  

Yours for a day filled with beautiful moments in time...

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The True and Magnificent Power of Giving

You've probably heard of the popular saying "It's better to give than to receive." But do you actually know what hidden power lies within this magnanimous act known as "giving?"

When you give something from your heart without expecting anything in return, you release a powerful force that will trigger your good deed to "bounce" back to you in amazing,and sometimes unusual ways.

I firmly believe that whatever you impart to others will come back to you a hundred fold. You are doing yourself a big favor by helping someone in need. By doing even the smallest acts of generosity, you are inviting good vibrations to come into your life.

You would be earning the respect and love of your recipients. You know that you will always have a loyal group of friends who would help, protect, and do anything for you just because they feel that they have to repay you in any way they can.Most people would have the urge or drive to reciprocate any act of kindness you've shown them.

However, this does not mean that you must expect them to repay you. Give without any expectation of rewards. Don't do it just because you have an ulterior motive. Give unconditionally.

Give because you are happy doing it. The universe will get back to you in its own special way.

Speaking of happiness, the act of giving can summon the spirit of joy to come into your heart. How would you feel when you've given something to your less fortunate neighbors? Let me tell you that nothing could brighten up my day more than hearing them express their most heartfelt gratitude and seeing their smiles extend from ear to ear.

Giving is also a healthy habit. It could prolong your life by instilling within you an inner sense of peace and accomplishment.

Just like all things in life, giving has its limitations. Being too generous can have its toll. Your kindness might be taken advantage of and people might abuse your good intentions.

Beware of individuals who are continuously seeking your aid. It's better to teach them how to solve their problems than to always attend to their needs.

As one saying goes ...

"Give them some fish and you'll feed them for a day. Teach them how to fish and you'll feed them for a lifetime."

Lastly, here's what I consider the most important rule about giving. Keep your good deeds to yourself. Don't announce to the whole world that you've donated $100,000 to your favorite charity or that you've helped save a child from a life-threatening
disease.

If you really desire to give, do it secretly and in private. Some people would write "anonymous" rather than their own names when they've made a contribution. The universe smiles upon these individuals, and they will get their just rewards in due
time.

Now that you know how wonderful it is to give, would you go out to the world and share your blessings?

About the Author:

Michael Lee is the author of "How To Be A Red Hot Persuasion Wizard," an ebook that reveals powerful secrets on how to get anything you want, including how to tremendously improve your relationships, explode your profits, win arguments, and
magically influence others. Grab a sample chapter at
20 Day Pesuasion

5 Statements Men Make and Their Hidden Meanings!

By now you are aware men are very confusing creatures. They say one thing and do another!

Sometimes you want to strangle them for being so inconsistent. Based on my experience, below are a few statements that probably drive you crazy!

"I need time to think about the relationship. But I still love you."

When this statement is made the man is really saying, "I'm tired of you! I need someone who's more of a challenge! But, I will string you along and stop by once in a while to have sex with you. At least until I find someone else."

The Five Relationship Dating Mistakes

You now have in front of you the five relationship dating mistakes men and women make when selecting a partner. Make sure to use this as a guide when you meet people!

Mistake #1: Looks

How many times have you been burned by a handsome, good-looking man or fine and beautiful woman? Too many times correct?